Giving the Ultimate Femdom Foot Bath & Massage

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Foot massage and foot bathing is one of the oldest ritual acts of submission, performed since ancient times and immortalized around the world in myth, scripture, and artwork for millennia. It remains one of the most intimate, sensual, and mutually gratifying nonsexual acts a submissive can perform for their Domme.

Whether for a particularly special occasion or incorporated into a lifestyle routine, an earnest ritual worship massage is desirable in the repertoire of any devoted submissive or slave. With these tips and this helpful guide you’ll be well equipped to serve your best, in the way that your Domme deserves.


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Time: 45 mins +

What You’ll Need

  • A large bowl or basin
  • Warm water
  • Salt mixture
  • Reusable muslin bags (optional)
  • Aromatics [e.g., flower petals] (optional)
  • Soap
  • Loofah/exfoliating glove
  • Sugar scrub (optional)
  • Polish remover
  • Nail brush
  • Nail clippers
  • Emery board
  • Cuticle pusher
  • A washrag
  • Eucalyptus or peppermint essential oil
  • A soft hand towel
  • Almond oil with Vitamin E

Preparation

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img_6808As with setting any scene for worship and submission, you’ll want to pay attention to the factors in your environment, tailoring them to the extent possible to the whims, wishes, and preferences of your Domme.

Pay attention to the lightning, the temperature, the presence or absence of music, and so on. Use your senses to establish a place suited to her liking, and don’t neglect any detail. Use scents (but sparingly), make sure there is a comfortable and supported place for her to sit, provide cool drinking water. Light candles if they would please her. In all things establish a positive, tranquil, and safe environment in which to provide her service, and do anything and everything within your control to set a mood and a tone that is conducive to her security and relaxation.

Gather your tools and materials and set them out ahead of time, so that everything is within reach and you won’t need to leave the room while the ritual is in progress.

Making the Salt Mixture: Combine equal parts plain epsom salts, evaporated milk, and oatmeal, and blend until consistent.

Making the Sugar Scrub: Heat coconut oil until liquid, mix in granulated sugar and finely ground coffee in equal parts until desired consistency is achieved.


Introduction

When your Domme or Mistress arrives, greet her appropriately and let her acclimate to the space. Unless it is her way, do not allow your decorum or protocol to be too rigid or stiff, and ingratiate her into the space with friendliness and deference. This is the beginning of putting her at ease, and letting her come to take ownership of what you have prepared.

If you have been separated before seeing each other allow some time for her to adjust and orient towards you. Listen to what she has to say and spend time with anything she might want to talk about, and make sure there will be nothing nagging at her mind while you are in service. As you go, keep communication flowing naturally, and remember that your ability to be at home and at ease in this space will in turn feed back on hers.

Involve her in what you have established and provided for her, give her the chance to comment upon it, and give her an opportunity to adapt it to her mood. Ask her if there is anything she’d like to change, where she would be most comfortable, and how she would like you both to be dressed. Give her options and the chance to express her preferences and wants. When you are both ready to begin, kneel before her in a position that will allow you to be comfortable for the duration.

It is usually a good time at this point to prepare the bath, particularly because the hot water you will use to dissolve the salt mixture will need time to cool before it touches her skin. Place a good handful of the mixture into the basin (more if the vessel is larger), pour the hot water over it and mix. Placing the mixture in a reusable muslin bag will make the experience less messy and make cleanup easier as well. Add in aromatics such as flower petals or herbs (herbal teas of some kinds work well), stir, and let steep.

Ask her permission to begin, and (when you are invited) bring your hands into contact with her body.

Do so with reverence and respect, as always, but at this point, again, it’s important not to be too formal or rigid. You are still transitioning here from a mundane state to a shared state of worship, and projecting calm and fluidity is more important than observing too strict a decorum. Let her adjust to your touch as you have let her adjust to your presence. Place your hands in less sensitive areas first, with a calm and present touch, and let them travel with light to medium pressure around the areas you’ll be touching. In this you forecast the upcoming encounter and you assure that when you begin applying pressure more strongly you have covered that area with a light touch first. Grip her ankles from the sides softly, and her knees, feel her calves and shins, and make yourself aware of any tension in her muscles.

Take time with this. It lays a foundation for the rest of the experience, and if you rush at this stage it may ruin her ability to feel that you’re taking adequate time with the subsequent stages.

In general, it is good to restrict your touch to the space between her toes and the tops of her knees, though if she deems it appropriate you may kiss her periodically. If your relationship is a sexual one it may be appropriate to offer your lady an orgasm before beginning. In many cases she may prefer to remain in a heightened and sensual state until the end, or if she is anxious in any way she may prefer to relax, but it is polite to offer, and if it is earnest and selfless she will appreciate your consideration.


Worship and Submission

img_8285When she has acclimated to your touch, she will invite you or you may request to remove her shoes or boots. Do this slowly and deliberately, and hold them carefully. When you have removed them, follow her orders, if any, and then place them carefully to the side. Show them respect as you set them aside, and appreciate their service to her.

NOTE: Be cognizant of their condition, and if necessary make plans to care for and clean them later.

As you go, allow your Domme to rest her feet on your lap, or on your stomach, chest, or shoulders. Symbolically, and as an act of intimacy, you should keep them from touching the ground from this point forward.

Kiss her feet, and encourage her to tell you when she wants them kissed again. Kiss them sweetly all over, covering them, and then kiss deeply and slowly on her soles. Have her sit back, gently bend her knees, and raise her soles to your face. Remove your hands and let them rest there, covering your face completely, and use your neck and back muscles to support the weight of her legs.

Rest together for a few moments and allow her to feel her power. During this time, accept her power and authority, and let her feel your submission.

Lift them back off, kissing again, and hold them in front of you by her ankles. Ask or wait to be commanded, and then smell her socks or nylons deeply. Submit to her stink, if any, and smell with gratitude and appreciation. When she is satisfied with your sniffing, ask to remove her socks and kiss again. This time kiss each of her toes individually as well as her heels and her soles. Cover every inch, top and bottom, with your kisses, up to the ankles. Smell again, and submit to them again.

When you have finished, raise them back in front of you and begin licking. Bathe her feet with your tongue, licking away her sweat in long strokes. Lick them all over, paying the most attention to her soles, and let her feel your tongue pressing into them. Suck her toes, one foot at a time, starting with the largest on each foot and working out. If you can, fit her full five toes in your mouth at once, let her insert it to your shared comfort level, and suck her whole foot. Repeat with the other and allow her to attempt both at once if she wishes.

Suck and lick until your submission is complete, raise them back to your face for another moment, and then return her feet to your lap or chest.


Washing

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img_8253Your basin should be ready by now. Place it in front of you between your knees and guide her feet into the water. Make sure she is resting comfortably, allow them to soak for around ten or fifteen minutes, and in the meantime occupy yourself with massaging her shoulders and neck or hands, or in whatever other way she deems appropriate. If she desires, it may be appropriate at this point to provide her with oral or manual sex.

Then, using the loofah or exfoliating glove, lather and scrub gently from her feet up to her knees and back down again. If you are employing the sugar scrub it is best to do so first, wetting the skin and massaging the granules lightly in a circular motion. Then take the washrag and use the water from the basin to rinse.


The Pedicure

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img_8265-1 Next, take note of the condition of the polish on her toes, if any, and if she wishes offer to remove it. Use the brush and the soapy water to clean her nails, trim and shape them, and use the cuticle pusher or a bamboo stick to clean up her cuticles.

Rinse them again and then set them back in your lap, setting the bowl or basin aside, and apply a few drops of eucalyptus or peppermint essential oil to the rag, and wipe her skin with it to provide a cool, refreshing sensation.

Kiss again, as before.


The Massage

img_8281When she is ready to proceed, place a small bead of the almond oil into your palm, warm it with your hands, and begin applying it to her skin. A little at a time works best, and you’ll want to make sure you have nice, even coverage that facilitates your massage without making things too slick or greasy.

NOTE: Other natural oils, such as coconut oil (or even olive oil in a pinch), are suitable, and if none is available a good lotion will do. Almond oil is my preference because it is a nice medium viscosity that gives you more control and feels less “wet” or gummy than some alternatives. Its scent is also almost completely neutral, and the vitamin E most almond oils are made with is very softening. Almond oil absorbs well into the skin and leaves less to wipe away.

Begin with her feet themselves, one at a time, applying firm, medium pressure, and squeezing them all over. Again, take time with this, allowing her to adjust to your touch. Use your fingertips to gently trace the bone structure in the top of the foot and the front of ankle, and provide even, downward strokes from her knees to her ankles.

Familiarize yourself in advance with the foot’s anatomy and be cognizant of it as you massage. Use a gentler touch on tendons and against bones, and firmer pressure against muscles. Try to visualize the routine strain placed on areas like her heels, her arches, and the balls of her feet, and assuage it accordingly. A firm squeeze of the heel is often incredibly appreciated, and helping her stretch her arches over your fists will often be welcome too. In her toes, wiggle your fingertips with light pressure around each knuckle, and in the tops of her feet, trace the tendons gently in a similar fashion.

As you make your way to the soles, increasing the pressure in areas with greater tension. Use your thumbs primarily, but don’t be afraid to use your fingertips on the tops and your fist in the arch. Long, even pressure is best, and the more you can work gently but firmly in an area the better. For the most part, try to spread out your strokes in an even, consistent way, following the anatomy appropriately.

Try to sense her satisfaction with each area you work before moving on.


Conclusion

When she is satisfied completely and you have covered all the areas, wipe with the hand towel (employing the washrag if necessary) to remove any remaining oil. It is best if the towel is fresh and fluffy, and take time with this again. Squeeze the areas you have worked on gently and brush the towel softly against her skin.

Kiss her feet earnestly again, thank her for the privilege of serving her, and return her feet to your lap to await her final instructions.

Afterwards, depending on her way and on the circumstances, a Domme may wish to receive sexual gratification, have her feet submitted to for some period of relaxation and meditation, or she may see fit to continue in a different way. In any case, it is best to regard this ritual as an end unto itself (with no expectation that it will necessarily lead to anything else at all) and to follow her lead when it comes to what to do next.

Show her your gratitude and appreciation for the opportunity to serve her (communicate it verbally as well as nonverbally), and indicate your willingness to repeat the experience whenever she so desires.


The Philosophy of Foot Worship

In many ways the act of ritual foot worship massage is as symbolically powerful as it is therapeutic, and it is worth exploring the perspective from which it should properly be carried out. To do this we should recognize a few important things about both her feet and their relationship to her.

Firstly, we should recognize that a woman’s feet are, in a quite literal way, what connects her to the world. When we think of a confident, empowered woman, a goddess, a physical manifestation of the feminine divine, and we imagine her standing proudly and confidently on her own strength and possessed of her own power, and we then imagine subtracting everything else in her environment, her feet are the only thing left, the only physical conduit attaching her to this plane and to the physical space in which she operates. This is what can make trampling and pedestaling such a profound experience in addition to the sensation; the knowledge that you are the first thing she touches, the point at which she meets the rest of the world.

She relies on her feet to make her way in the world, and to ground her. When she needs nothing else she needs her feet, to support her and bear her weight and her movements and her actions. They are her routine facilitator, and they provide her mobility, and to that extent her autonomy.

And they are put through a lot in order to provide her with that support. If we say that the average woman weighs around 160 pounds, and that she takes an average of 6,000 steps every day, this means that by the time each day is done she’s put nearly 500 tons of pressure on the soles of her feet, and that’s on an average day. 365 days a year. Wouldn’t it be nice if somewhere along the way someone did something to mitigate that, and to soothe whatever pain and repair whatever damage may come with it?

The same is true in a different way of her shoes and her socks, and this too illustrates why they should be treated with care and respect. Her shoes not only protect her physically, from injury and pain, but they also protect her purity; every day she walks through filth and muck and all kinds of disgusting things, and they go with her wherever she wants, protecting her and providing a barrier between those things she might encounter and her sacred body and person. The socks capture the half a pint of sweat she will produce on an average day, sweat that is filled with her unique chemical signature, and represent a testament to her exertions and also to that same freedom and autonomy. In both cases there is an innate, inanimate stoicism in the utility of their role, and they serve a noble and reliable function that benefits her enormously.

In both cases, too, we can see something that is unique and special about women, and that is their seemingly fundamental persuasion toward making that beautiful. The socks and the shoes she chooses, how or whether she paints her nails or incorporates jewelry, how she matches these things to the rest of her outfit and matches that to the circumstances of her environment, all of these are a unique daily expression of her essential impulse to beautify and adorn the mundane, which is something that must be appreciated categorically.

Moreover it is an expression of her unique tastes and sensibilities when it comes to how to interpret that impulse, and it gives one an insight directly into that wealth of her individuality in an immediate and current way. In short, it is an avenue of her personal expression, her unique style and way, and it’s a line into her heart, which should be cherished and celebrated appropriately. Every day, for just a moment, she thinks about what she’s going to wear on her feet, how she will dress them and present them to the world, and for a moment it makes her just a little happy, or at least gives her the feeling of appropriateness and harmony, and then even when she forgets about and ignores them they serve her continually, without complaint and until she no longer needs it.

If she kicks ass and looks great doing it a certain amount of that is due to this support, and it is worth acknowledging this as a way of appreciating her personally. In some way, if you are her slave and are also dedicated to her support and her wellbeing and her care, there is an element of common cause between you and these objects, and you can appreciate their service to her as you hope she will appreciate yours.

In general then, foot massage and foot bathing is a way of recognizing what a woman goes through on a daily basis and a way of participating in that as a result of that recognition. It is acknowledging and acting accordingly in order to pursue her highest state of accomplishment and wellbeing together. It allows her to be compensated for what she goes through in order to be powerful and efficacious, and in this way it both increases the amount of which she is capable and it lessens the cost of pursuing that capability. It grants her the means to be more vital as well as rewarding her in a way for having pursued that vitality.

Now all of this is true, and it commands appreciation and respect, without invoking D/s at all, but if we ask ourselves what foot worship and submission to a woman’s feet add to the picture, we can begin to appreciate the extra benefit she receives as a result of its employment.

Let us say first that foot worship is consistent with the representation of an enormous degree of respect and reverence to one’s Domme, and this is manifest in the physical relationship between one’s body and one’s Domme’s. By definition, in order to worship a woman’s feet when she is in a powerful position you must place yourself at her southernmost geography, her nadir, and from that point anything of her is above you. You must elect a position that is in common with the least of her, and that is focused upon what is the least acknowledged, least celebrated feature of her anatomy.

Sexually speaking too, a position at a woman’s feet is functionally the furthest one can be from her vagina while still remaining connected to her body, which indicates, if anything, a willingness to attenuate one’s desire for physical contact with her so that it manifests as a desire for her and for her being as opposed to the desire for the penetrative act or even for the sex organ itself. To me, apart from the inherent symbolism in the act, the position alone demonstrates the declaration that Yes, I want you profoundly, but if all I can have are the soles of your feet and the tips of your toes I will rejoice, and I will assume a place there until you welcome me to your sex.

Letting her enjoy that power and giving her the space to play in it and tease and hold you there until she decides to do otherwise is in many ways the essence of D/s, and it can be enormously gratifying for Domme and sub alike. Further, if the experience is a struggle, whether through feigned resistance and coercion or because of feigned revulsion and subjection, the exercise is enhanced, along with the concurrent emotions within the D/s dynamic.

This is why it’s so important to take one’s time and let her determine not just what is sufficient or what is adequate but what is enough, with foot worship in general but with massage and bathing in particular, because it is a demonstration of your will to subvert or rather to sublimate your desire into actions that support and contribute to her, even if what that means is adoration or humiliation, with or without the service you perform. You want to demonstrate the abundance of that will, and the stamina necessary to carry it through, and the unfailing commitment to place her needs, even her whims, wishes, and wants, ahead of your desire. In this you demonstrate the will to be disciplined rather than reckless, and, again, letting her be in control of that and letting her test it and enjoy herself in that control is core D/s.

The other thing is that either all or nearly all of this philosophy routinely goes over the heads and under the noses of an extreme majority of men, even many of those who fetishize innately but without reflection, which means that not only are the feet of the average woman purely ignored on a regular basis, but often the attention they do receive is inappropriate, exploitative, or misguided. In your own submissive practice you should strive always to do better than this, and to ensure that, however it excites and stimulates you, your heart is in the right place.

If we are to treat these women like divinities, like goddesses, we can see that even the prosaic and mundane considerations with which we all forced to contend are an unwarranted blight on the sanctity of their existence; when framed appropriately we can see that we must act for their benefit not just in a proactive sense, but even to counteract what they suffer simply by virtue of being human.


It’s not hard to find a woman who would be interested in have her feet paid more attention, and if you practice these skills you will be well equipped to serve and care for one when the opportunity arises.  Please leave any of your own favorite tips or tricks in comments!


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